How to find a soul mate. You know the drill: The music swells, the camera pans, and there he is! Armed with a heart stopping smile, a bouquet of flowers, and some inside joke from 20 minutes earlier in the movie, he swoops in and gets the girl…
The credits roll, and the camera slowly leaves the two soul mates in their perfect scene, immortalized forever.
Gushy rom-coms are must have for gal nights, but often do more harm than good when discussing how to find a soul mate. If you’ve been on the hunt for the Matthew McConaughey to your Kate Hudson, look no further.
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Here’s the non-Hollywood scoop on how to find a soul mate:
1. Understand What a Soul Mate Is
If you’re going to find the mate to your soul, you ought to know what you’re looking for, right? Hollywood movies and glamorized stories have lead us to believe that soul mate relationships are full of romance, void of disagreements, and all around an easy ride through life. But rest assured, those relationships only exist if Paramount produces them.
A true soul mate can be anyone. A family member, friend, or even a pet! Basically, a soul mate is someone with whom you have made a sacred contract. You’ve committed to being a part of each other’s spiritual evolution over many lifetimes.
In English that means: you’ve shared many lifetimes with this person — in multiple forms. For example, in one lifetime you may have been brother and sister. In another you may have been best friends. Before you came to live your life on earth, your souls (along with the help of your spiritual team) agreed to be together in this life to help each other grow.
A soul mate is like an undercover agent in your life’s journey. Even when your fish dies, your coworker is driving you you nuts, and you can’t seem to lose that extra 5 pounds, they’re there to remind you that everything happens for a reason. They support you and help you grow — that’s their job!
2. Set Your Intention
If you sat down to draw a smiley face, but instead focused on trees, what would you draw? Hello, forest!
Your intentions guide everything, so just as you would with any exercise, when you’re wondering how to find a soul mate, first start with your intention.
If you had set your intention before fully understanding what a soul mate is, revisit your intention.
Remember that a soul mate can be anyone in your life — not just a romantic partner! (Yes, this may be your excuse to finally adopt that dog you can’t stop thinking about.)
So go ahead and set your intention to find your soul mate… whatever they look like.
3. Meditate On It
Now that you’re crystal clear on what you’re looking for, and have set your intention to find a soul that’s primed and ready to help you grow, it’s time to get down to business.
Meditate on your future soul mate:
- Get comfy in a quiet spot for 15 minutes
- Allow your body to relax as you breathe peacefully
- Imagine receiving guidance from your soul mate when you are overwhelmed
- Feel their unconditional love
- Visualize their light
- Imagine how you will feel when you finally connect and know it was meant to be!
As you meditate, ask your spiritual guides for guidance. They already know your intention, so take it a step further and ask for their help… after all, that’s what they’re there for!
- Meditation not your thing? No worries — here are 5 meditation alternatives.
4. Be Open to Receiving (but don’t force it)
Finally meeting up with a soul who has promised to guide, love, and support you can seemingly overshadow even the best weekend trip. But, while you are meditating with intention, don’t forget to live your life!
Putting everything on pause and waiting around for your knight in shining armor (or fur) won’t get you very far. In fact, it will decrease the amount of people you interact with. That could mean missing out on valuable soul mate minutes! (BTW, here’s a super interesting post about destiny and why you never have to worry about missing a connection with your soulmate.)
But don’t worry too much about impacting your soul mate meeting. The Universe is going to make sure that you will meet, and that you will be drawn to one another. Plain and simple.
Imagine the universe as the most helpful personal assistant ever. It’s totally on top of every detail and knows everything from your go-to coffee order to when your soul mate will be passing by your lunch spot!
5. Be True to Yourself
Knowing this amazing, 5-star soul is headed your way, ready to embrace you with love and support, can inspire some resolutions that would put January 1st’s to shame.
And while it’s never a bad thing to ditch soda or start walking, don’t forget to stay true to yourself. Your soul mate made a sacred contract with YOU… regardless of how much holiday weight you gained.
Embracing and loving who you are (for real) will enable you to bring your best self to the relationship. Plus, it will allow you to instantly and authentically connect with your soul mate.
- Love ranch dressing on your pizza? Go ahead! (BTW if you haven’t tried this, it’s delicious!)
- Can’t stand basketball? Turn the TV off in March.
- Game of Thrones bores you to tears? Flip over to the Bachelor.
Keep everything rollin’ that makes you YOU. Your soul mate (and furry friends) will thank you.
Well, that’s the scoop on how to find a soul mate — real life edition! What do you think? Are there already soul mates in your life that you didn’t realize? Is that connection with your BFF totally obvious now?