Everybody wants to find a soul mate. I mean, who wants to be lonely?
Even Sheldon Cooper fell in love with Amy Farrah Fowler — and he’s about as unromantic as they come.
We all want to be loved for who we are, including our quirky hobbies and habits.
And we all desire a soulful connection with another person… someone to share our thoughts and feelings with.
BTW, this post isn’t for you if your looking for a way to trap a man. Instead, we’re going to talk about how to find a soul mate by living an authentic spiritual journey.
Don’t worry… it will all become clear; just read on.
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Thanks to movies and the other media we are bombarded with, we tend to think finding a soul mate will be about the externals… having awesome hair or a perfect body.
But learning how to find a soul mate is a series of letting go of and embracing different ideas.
It’s about changing your mindset and opening up to the possibilities that life has to offer; seeing life through a new lens, with a new perspective.
With those very important words said, let’s learn how to find a soul mate…
How to Find a Soul Mate
1. Change your belief system
Let go of the belief that you must attract him/her. Just let it go.
Imagine this limiting belief floating on a cloud getting further and further away. Poof! Gone.
Now take a breathe. Allow yourself to feel lighter.
Here’s the thing:
Before you were born, you and your soul mate spiritually agreed to be “the one” for each other.
And trust me, the Universe is going to make sure that you will meet and connect with one another. So you can relax about that.
Tip: Imagine the universe as the most helpful assistant ever that is on top of every detail! I mean, it does keep the earth spinning on its axis and all. :)
2. Let go of the search
Have you been like Dora the Explorer on a search to find your soul mate? If so, one of the best things you can do is LET IT GO.
I know, letting go of the search seems counterintuitive, but it’s the way the Universe works.
The more desperate you become to find a soul mate, the LESS likely you are to connect with them.
It works like this:
The universe gives us more of what we focus on. So, if you are constantly focusing on not having a soul mate your attention is on lack of what you have.
So what’s the universe gonna bring ya? More lack.
Letting go of searching is the one thing you MUST do if you want to find a soul mate.
Remember, he or she is already out there. You have a sacred contract that you agreed to before you incarnated. Now, you need to relax and let the universe do the heavy lifting.
3. Let go of the notion of “getting”
Is your focus on what you need, what you want? Remember that being in a relationship is more about giving than getting.
This is going to sound corny and cliche, but…
Start to consider how you can complete yourself.
That does NOT mean you won’t find a soul mate.
Remember how we talked about how you need to stop focusing on lack to find a soul mate? This is one way to do it. This shifts the energy back to YOU.
Learn what you need at a soul level and then work on meeting that deep need yourself.
- Live in gratitude for what you already have.
- Journal about all the wonderful qualities you have. Fall in love with yourself first.
- Get excited about what all you have to offer your soul mate — what you will have to give them when they arrive.
This one tweak in perspective can shift your energy and open universal doors.
4. Let go of the idea that your soul mate is going to be perfect
No one is perfect. Not you, not me, not even Beyonce. Say whaaaat?
Of course, rationally, we all know that.
But often in our longing to find a soul mate, we romanticize what it will be like. We watch The Notebook and fantasize about the perfection of being deeply in love.
But this is your wake up call.
A soul mate isn’t what you see in the movies. It’s a relationship that has some kinks to work out…
You and your soul mate have past karma, so you decided to connect in this lifetime to work them out.
Don’t get me wrong.
A soul mate relationship can be a dream – a delightful bed of roses! But it’s possible you’ll get stuck with a thorn now and then. :)
So maybe you find a soul mate, but he doesn’t write you lipstick messages on the mirror. Does that mean he’s not “the one?” Of course not!
So, instead of writing poetry he brings you chicken soup when you have the flu. Okay, so he doesn’t make the soup, he pours it out of a can and pops it in the microwave. So what? He’s not perfect, but he tried.
That’s love, people.
The point is:
Don’t discount someone because you see a few flaws. Let your heart guide you—it knows your soul mate’s soul and will connect when you are open to it.
5. Embrace your unique self
I mentioned this above, but it bears repeating. In our society, we are kinda obsessed with the external.
What’s important though is the internal—the true us, the soul us.
We often hide our real self because we are afraid it will be shunned or laughed at. But I’m here to tell you to let your freak flag fly! Be your true, real, unique self!
- So you like to wear shorts when it’s 20 degrees outside.
- You collect supplies from the craft store but have never scrapbooked a page, big whoop.
- You’re 35 years old and still like to write with glitter pens (who doesn’t?).
- Keys? Yeah, you can never remember where you put them.
The quirks that make you YOU are the qualities that your soul mate will find endearing.
Remember, you’ll find a soul mate no matter what —the Universe will see to that!
And embracing your unique self will prepare you for being a fully-engaged soul mate partner when the time comes!
6. Embrace manifestation
You are a manifesting machine, whether you realize it or not.
And the important thing to know is that you manifest everything in your life, depending on what you:
- focus on
- think about
So start manifesting wholeness and fulfillment in your life.
Image what it will feel like being with your soul mate. Then, manifest that, instead of more of what you are lacking.
7. Embrace your path
Some people are in a holding pattern, killing time until “the one” shows up.
If you are not moving forward because you are afraid you will make a choice that leads you away from your soul mate instead of towards them, make a change! Shake things up!
Remember, the Universe is going to make sure you connect with your soul mate. Your job is to live your authentic life!
That’s when you will find a soul mate.
8. Embrace the relationship
When you do meet your soul mate, don’t rush in with guns blazing.
Take your time and let the relationship develop naturally. Be friends. Get to know each other.
Just because you are soul mates doesn’t mean that everything needs to happen at the speed of light. Trust, and let things unfold. And in the meantime, relax. :)
Focus on enjoying your own company and life. Once you do, you’ll notice you’re not wondering how to find a soul mate…and that’s when they will appear in your life!